So, here is the deal. It has been three years and counting since the first piece of paper was signed to embark on this international adoption journey. Granted, no one said it was going to be easy. Nor did they claim the process, timing or government regulations would make a whole lot of sense. I knew what might be in front of me. And I did it anyway knowing adoption was something I had thought about for the past 19 years.
During these past 1098 days (give or take a few), I have had the great pleasure of watching passports disappear, fingerprints being rejected, the beginning of a new I-800 process, the closure of China to singles (and to pretty much anyone who isn’t Snow White), Nepal opening, Nepal closing, a misplaced Visas 37 Cable, Nepal opening, China moving to a five-year wait list, our first ‘friends’ receiving matches for their daughters in Nepal, and then silence. Now it has basically come to a halt again. Several of the women I have met during this process are bowing out of Nepal altogether.
While it appears that a large group of files were matched after the initial 25 and are/were in the process of being mailed, the process has now stopped completely . No one is sure if it is for "technical problems" or for lack of a new Minister. Bottom line is that no adoptions can be completed without a Minister in place and no one is even clear if referrals can be issued without a Minister.
In case you aren’t getting Nepal breaking news alerts a la Michael Jackson, they are – and continue to be – in a bit of a political turmoil. Basically, the political upheaval among the Madhesi parties has delayed the naming of a new Minister for MOWC. They are facing more strikes, power outages and political unrest than the country has seen in quite a while.
Needless to say, getting away for the vacation in Mexico has really helped put this all is perspective. I am taking my hands off of the wheel on this one. If it is meant to be, it will happen. If it is not, it certainly won’t be from a lack of effort, care or desire. Some things have a funny way of appearing in – or disappearing from -- your life without any rhyme or reason.
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Laura-
Love the post! You are exactly right - who knows why things happen as they do...but it's all for good. I pray in your world this is certainly, "meant to happen"... and you see confirming signs of that very soon.
Renae.
Laura - your leadership has provided much encouragement and inspration to many of us in the process! Please know that now, while you're in the ebb rather than the flow, we're all sending our thoughts and energy for everything to work out just how it's meant to. Hang in there. Someone else can drive for a while :).
That is the best attitude. Get the paper work in, keep it updated, and then go on with your life until the door opens a crack and they process some adoptions sooner or later.
I think with Nepal the miracle of adoption is mainly getting your child out.
If it is any help, I did wait forever, and then wait forever in KTM, had loads of problems, but I did get my little girl home and she is worth everything. She is perfectly wonderful.
HI Laura -
Thanks for your posts, they are very helpful!
In March I submitted my dossier to a "Nepal approved" agency here in America. Reading through your blog and some others I've noticed people mentioning "once our dossier reaches Nepal, our agency's representative will review everything. Then we wait for the "guarantee letter" from the US Embassy in Kathmandu which basically says that our immigration approval & fingerprints were forwarded from the US to Nepal. After this letter arrives it is added to our dossier, it (the dossier) will be forwarded to the Nepal Ministry of Woman & Children. Our dossier will then "get in line" behind those that have already arrived."
What is this "guarantee letter"? Does my agency get a copy of it? Should I expect to see a copy of it?
Thanks for your help -
Mo
Thanks to all for all of your supportive comments.
Mo, you will see a copy of your guarantee letter. It is given by the Embassy once they receive your Visa Cable 37 from NVC. If you want to talk more about this, let me know how to contact you through a PM. I am happy to help.
HI Laura -
I would greatly appreciate your help answering a couple of questions! I can be reached at mowi37@gmail.com.
Thanks so much!!
Mo
Hi Laura -
Meant to say in last comment that I'm not sure what PM means and also NVC. I'm new to all this tech stuff!
Cheers -
Mo
Hi Laura - UUUhhhhhhh - how frustrating. Keep up the good attitude to see which way the wind blows.
-Courtney
Laura,
Your comment "taking your hands off the wheel" somehow gives me a sense of renewed hope. I have had my papers in for a 2nd Nepal adoption since Septmeber of 2007. I have gone thru the wait with hope that once Nepal opened, my papers would be one of the first dossiers to be matched, to elation, when the gov't finally announced they were opening up in Oct 2008, to tremendous disallusioment and confusion as 2008 turned into 2009 and now we are nearing the end of the summer. I avoid thinking and talking about it and then came upon your blog this morning. Perhaps it is so, we don't have the control and perhaps letting go of the control gives the path for things to happen as they are suppose to.
Thank you,
Michele
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I have been waiting for over 3yrs and have been through countless doctor letters,fingerprints and the dissolution of the monarchy.
Oy!! What a long journey it has been thus far..
Laura,
I too waited 3 long years and went through many of the ups and downs you wrote about. I also "let go and let God" and 7 weeks later, I got my invitation to travel to get my daughter. On February 1, 2009, I brought my daughter home from Kazakhstan. I was complaining about why it took so long, a friend turned to me and said, "you waited because Sophia was not born yet". Have Faith. -D
Laura - I just stumbled upon your blog. I am a single women stumbling through the nepal adoption process. I got my referral on July 7th. A beautiful little girl that will be three on monday. One other family from my agency also got a referral. We got all of our acceptance documents in and are waiting for travel approval. Keep your spirits high. The call comes when you least expect it.
i like this post,
hey laura, u said well...
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